A romance that has been given up by both partners can be rekindled again. All it takes is nice shot of oxytocin. That hormone comes shooting out from the pituitary gland in your brain. Amazingly, the gland looks like a pair of testicles.
Renovating Your Mind is going to tell you how this process works.
Make love with your partner and the posterior pituitary gets excited. It starts secreting out oxytocin. An orgasm really opens up the flood gates with oxytocin surging all over the body. This chemical causes those feelings of surreal ecstasy, complete relaxation and safety. It’s also a bonding mechanism. This was probably engineered to ensure the survival of your genetic material through the promotion of the brain’s sexual chemistry.
The more successful the love-making, the closer you become with your partner. Thank oxytocin. Even if you have been distant for years. Couples that have been sleeping in separate beds for decades are brought together again. Sometimes it take professional help to bridge the chasm. The chemical also spreads trust, compassion and quenches anxiety.
In many mail-ordered bride marriages, where the female partner really wants nothing to do with the other, she may fake romantic feelings. Ultimately, that starts the oxytocin dripping which allowing the couple to actually fall in love. The same holds true for a love life that has long been forgotten. If one partner fakes love, your love life will be engulfed by oxytocin. This repeated cycle allows the process to make an even stronger relationship. Finally, after decades of living separate lives, couples are back to making great love together. The more you repeat the process, coupling will become even stronger in the future.
A great example of this was a highly educated pair that I met as a pharmacist. This couple, in their early 90’s would frequent my pharmacy a couple of times a month. In fact, both had Harley motorcycles and wore black leather. They looked so much younger than their ages. They confided in me about their non-existent love life. I recommended they see this progressive marriage counselor for therapy. It took four months but one day they walked into the store smiling from ear to ear.
Sex knows no age courtesy of oxytocin. One of you just has to get the fire burning. Burn baby burn!!!!
If you don’t have a partner, no worries, get a massage. Massages also boost oxytocin levels.
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